Have you ever sat and reflected back to your childhood? Have you ever wondered why a person became who they are; what shaped their personality?
I speculated for decades about my Father. I thought often about what shaped my Father’s mind. I could never understand why my Father could not express love. I never heard Dad say, I love you, to my Mother. I never heard my Father say, I love you, to me or my three siblings. Dad told his friends that he loved his family. He spent most of his free time with his friends and not his family.
Dad never hugged his children, he did not play with us, he did not attend any of our school functions and not once did he compliment us on an achievement.
Dad was grouchy quite often. We described Dad to our childhood friends as a verbally mean person. Dad was definitely not the type Father depicted in the old t.v. show, “Father Knows Best”. I felt cheated when I observed the loving Fathers of my school friends. When I was in my 40s and living 1,500 miles across country from my parents; I wrote loving, kind, inspiring letters to my Father for 7 months. Not once did I obtain a response from my Father in any way. Mom told me years later he reread and cherished my letters, but I did not know he felt as he did. My Father died of a massive heart attack in 1999. I felt devastated that I never obtained that loving relationship with my Father.
Mom was our rock, our parent. She told each of us she loved us. Mom helped us, defended us, and supported us until her death in 2002. Thank you Mom for shaping our lives and showing us how to express love to others.
My husband is a great Father. He has the relationship with our Daughter that I always wanted to have with my Father. My husband is a great and loving Grandfather to our Granddaughter. I never had a relationship with either of my Grandfathers. I am extremely happy my Daughter and Granddaughter have these wonderful relationships.
When God tells us to Love One Another – we need to follow this commandment. To love a child, an adult, another race of people – enriches our lives tremendously. Learn to show love. This is the answer to making this world a better place. ♥♥♥